ABOUT ME

Growing up as a first-generation Chinese Canadian, I believed that codependency and people-pleasing were the norm. My strict immigrant parents showed their love by working tirelessly to meet my material needs, but emotional neglect left me feeling unseen. I thought being the obedient “good” girl was the only way to be loved.

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Food and cooking became my comfort, even as I faced body shaming and buried my emotions to avoid rejection.

I often felt like the black sheep, constantly compared to my sister. I craved freedom—to explore, make mistakes, and express myself—but I felt trapped.

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Retail shopping and my eating disorder became my escape. Striving for perfection and meeting others’ expectations became my armor—masking my pain and convincing me that my worth was tied to how I looked, what I achieved, and what I owned.

I searched for something—or someone—to fill the emptiness I carried. Relationships became my focus.

 

The shame of sexual abuse by a boyfriend consumed me. I felt broken, unworthy, and stuck in self-doubt and emotional pain. How could anyone love me now? I didn’t.

Moving to the city felt like a fresh start. I met the man of my “dreams” and felt hopeful, but when he left, my walls went back up. I numbed my feelings by jumping from one relationship to another for validation.

 

My anxiety was paralyzing, keeping me in survival mode and overwhelming me with depression and exhaustion.

Dating became a whirlwind of emotionally unavailable men, triggering my fears of abandonment. I masked my own emotional unavailability with spiritual bypassing and the illusion of vulnerability.

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An abortion left me disconnected from my body, carrying guilt and shame that felt unbearable. When my business failed, I internalized it as a reflection of my inadequacy.

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Chronic overthinking drained me as I sought control. I fell into relationships with narcissists, convincing myself I could save them. I hit an emotional and mental breaking point.

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That’s when I found the therapist who helped me rebuild my sense of self and reclaim my sovereignty.

I began to show up for myself in ways I never had before. I reconnected with my values, embraced my imperfections, and celebrated my sensitivity, femininity, and softness.

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I discovered the joy of play, the freedom of being in flow, and the peace of releasing the need to control everything.

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In that space, I met a kind, emotionally available partner who truly sees me. With him, I’ve experienced a love that feels safe, steady, and free of drama.

I created a life that aligns with who I truly am—a life I choose with intention every single day. I feel grounded in my body, fully present, and capable of navigating my emotions with acceptance and compassion.

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For the first time, I know what it means to live with ease and flow.